How often do you say “I love you” to your loved ones?
Hi, guys.
I’ll start from afar with this one.
For the past few weeks I’ve been watching “Castle” (the TV series). I started from the first season (obviously) and I’m currently following the 6th one. Spoiler alert! If you are watching the show or are intending to do so, hence you don’t want to be spoiled, STOP reading now. (Not that the TV advertisements of the show don’t spoil the crap out of you, but hey!) If, by any chance, you haven’t been spoiled yet, skip the part in red and continue on the next paragraph.
I’ll start from afar with this one.
For the past few weeks I’ve been watching “Castle” (the TV series). I started from the first season (obviously) and I’m currently following the 6th one. Spoiler alert! If you are watching the show or are intending to do so, hence you don’t want to be spoiled, STOP reading now. (Not that the TV advertisements of the show don’t spoil the crap out of you, but hey!) If, by any chance, you haven’t been spoiled yet, skip the part in red and continue on the next paragraph.
Watching “Castle” made me wonder how often do we say “I love you” to our loved ones? If it was me and my boyfriend caught in a life threatening situation, the first thing I’d want to do is tell him how much I love him, how much he means to me. Hell, we say “I love you” to each other every day and it is the most natural thing for the two of us. These three words convey everything that we feel for one another. They express the gratitude that somehow miraculously we found each other and built a meaningful relationship based on mutual trust, understanding and support. For me “I love you” is a reminder of what we have - a reminder that our love is precious and must never be taken for granted. It is also a way of saying “Thank you for being with me”; or a way to express our gratitude that the Universe brought us together; all of the above, really. |
But that’s just us. And being the non-judgemental person that I am, I always try to see others’ points of view. I know there are people who rarely confess their love to their partner. In fact, in no previous relationship have I been capable of saying “I love you” and known it to be true to the bottom of my heart. So I guess this depends on a lot of things (Duh! As always). Everybody loves differently. Each of us expresses emotions and feelings in extraordinary ways. We are unique creatures and there’s a reason for it. Our uniqueness makes us who we are. For some of us saying “I love you” every day might be the most natural thing. For others it might be a struggle to say it even once in a while. There sure are hundreds of other suggestions out there. However, what matters most is not saying the words, but showing the love through our actions.
To tell you the truth, apart from my boyfriend, I don’t say “I love you” to anyone. Not to friends; not even to my parents. The latter is sad, because I DO love them. Of course, I've told them a couple of times in my lifetime but I feel like that’s certainly not enough. Especially considering the fact they created and raised me, they are constantly taking care of me and I basically owe them my life. It’s just…I have some block in my mind that makes me feel very uncomfortable saying “I love you” to my parents. I don’t know why. Maybe I feel like loving them is a given and they ought to know it, so there is no reason for me to say it to them. Ridiculously stupid logic, I know. Do you have these kinds of troubles, or am I the only one? I think this shouldn't be a problem as long as we show them that we love them with deeds, rather than words , as I said.
How about you? How often do you say “I love you”? And I mean saying it – eye to eye, pronouncing the words. (Writing doesn't count guys. It is clearly not the same. For me personally, writing “I love you” is a hundred times easier than saying it out loud.) Do you think you declare it often enough? Or do you let your actions alone speak for you instead?
How about you? How often do you say “I love you”? And I mean saying it – eye to eye, pronouncing the words. (Writing doesn't count guys. It is clearly not the same. For me personally, writing “I love you” is a hundred times easier than saying it out loud.) Do you think you declare it often enough? Or do you let your actions alone speak for you instead?
P.S.: I am not quite sure whether my spoiler even counts as such. I mean - it is obvious that the two main protagonists in the series will eventually get together. I didn't tell you anything new or unexpected there. You can go back and read it now. :D Anyhow. I recommend watching "Castle". Great show. It always makes me smile (especially the 6th season - SO adorable).